Ways to forgive.

Dear readers,

I often keep talking about how important forgiveness and letting go is in the journey of our life. It’s one of the most integral karmic lessons for us to learn inorder to focus on what’s meant for us and what’s not. There comes a point often enough with people we love that we need to forgive and let go of human err and sometimes let go of our own magnified emotions. Forgiveness not only refreshes our blocked energy but also creates a shift in the energy of our collective relationship. Often I have shared importance of forgiveness but today am going to be discussing step by steps ways to actually forgive and let go

Forgiveness is a process. It does not happen over night and the process will be different for everyone. But no matter how long it takes, there’s hope! Here are some steps you can take toward that journey:

1. Become clear on your morals and values as they are right now.

The reason most of us feel guilt or shame for actions done in the past is because those actions are not in line with our current morals and values. Our past wrongs can actually clue us in to what we hold important. By identifying our morals and values, we start to get a clearer picture as to “why” we’re hurting over what we’ve done, or what others did to us.

2. Realize that the past is the past.

This seems fairly straightforward, but when we can really wrap our head around the fact that we can’t undo the past, the past is done, those things happened, we open ourselves up to more acceptance . Increased acceptance can lead to the emotional healing we are all looking for.

3. Create a “re-do.”

Never underestimate the power of a “re-do”. Write down how you would have done things differently if you could go back and do it again. In doing so, we affirm that we not only learned from our past mistake, but that if we had the skills we have now, back then, we would have done things differently.

4. Realize you did the best you could at the time.

The way we respond depends on the skills we have, the frame of mind we’re in, and how we perceive the situation at that moment. Maybe we didn’t have as much objectivity, or acted out of survival or protection mode. Maybe we’d let stress build up, which put us at a higher risk of responding poorly. Whatever the factors, cut yourself a break. If you learn from it, it was never in vain.

5. Start acting in accordance with your morals and values.

The best thing you can do for yourself in order to forgive is start replacing the negative behavior and thoughts with more appropriate ones that are congruous with your morals and values. By so doing, you reaffirm to yourself that you can handle situations in the way you want to. This can lead to a sense of pride, which is a huge part of building self-esteem.

6. Identify your biggest regrets.

When I work with clients on moving on from their past, it can be very overwhelming for them because they see so many regrets. It’s often helpful to categorize these things because people often only hold on to a handful of big categories/patterns. Working on patterns of behavior is often more helpful than working on individual regrets.

7. Tackle the big ones.

There may be some regrets that don’t seem to improve, and they’re going to require some extra work. I call it “clearing your conscience.” This means it might take bringing this regret into the room and apologizing for your past mistake.

8. Turn the page.

At some point, you have to accept that the past has happened and you’ve done everything in your power to amend past mistakes. It’s now time to turn the page and accept those events as part of your story. They’ve all contributed to making you who you are. Being grateful for those experiences allows you to move on and truly forgive yourself.

9. Cut yourself some slack.

When we learned how to ride a bike, most of us realized it would probably take a few tries before achieving perfection. New behavior and thinking patterns are no different. They’re both skills. Cut yourself some slack while you’re on a new learning curve. Realize that you’re going to make mistakes. We all do.

10. Move toward self-love.

The last step in building self-esteem is moving toward loving yourself. Think kind thoughts toward yourself and show yourself some compassion. If we can learn to think of ourselves as our best friend, to speak to ourselves with love and kindness, and put ourselves as a priority, it reaffirms that we believe we are worth it. Engage in coachn or therapy if you need some outside perspective in this area or just to be heard from a neutral point. Surround yourself with supportive people.

You are more than your past mistakes, and I promise you, you are so worth it!!

You deserve to forgive because you have it in you to be better than you think!!

Sending you loads of love and light,

Tamanna.

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How clarity of intentions shapes our reality.

Dear readers

As my trip after two weeks comes to an end and as I sip of my coffee I think about how our thoughts and desires manifest in reality which we are all aware of. It’s something so powerful but unfortunately we are unable to handle how we intent or think. When we seek to bring something into the world, our intentions and motivations are everything. Our intention for bringing something into our lives shapes our experience of a manifestation and the realities that spin off of it.
The lens of relationships offers an up-close view of how our intentions color our manifestations. We may seek to attract a soulmate into our life. We may state that we are seeking a spiritual connection that helps us grow in our understandings. This is well and good but if unresolved emotional issues lurk beneath our stated intentions, these “hidden” intentions will eventually surface to color any relationship we manifest.

Perceiving Motivations ‘Underneath the Vision’–The key is to come to a deep and thorough understanding of ourselves and our motivations before we seek to manifest something new in our lives. In the case of a relationship, we may consciously hold the highest and best intentions in terms of our vision for a soulmate connection, but there may be other intentions operating beneath our conscious intentions. If, underneath our visions of manifesting a soulmate relationship, we’re afraid to face life alone, we are unknowingly sending the universe signals that exist on two very different wavelengths. Consequently, we may manifest a relationship that is intended to lift both people higher but ultimately deteriorates under the weight of unresolved emotional issues.

Identifying Conflicting Emotions about Abundance–The same can be said of manifesting abundance and prosperity. We may state that we intend to manifest abundance so we can undertake studies, experiences or projects aligned with our spiritual purpose. If, underneath this vision, we still hold emotional issues around abundance, this can stifle or alter our intended manifestation. One example of this would be the person whose father often spoke negatively of those who had wealth. As this person begins to manifest the abundance of their spirit, it can trigger feelings instilled by the father against those who have wealth. This could diffuse the manifestation altogether or create complications that seriously limit what can be experienced in the realm of abundance.
Likewise, if a person holds unresolved emotional issues that center around scarcity or “not having enough of what’s needed,” this is another factor that can send the universe a contrasting signal that seriously impairs manifestation.
What has been said here about relationships and abundance can be applied to any and all intended manifestations. In order to pave the way for what we seek to bring into our reality, it’s important to examine all our intentions and motivations — not just our “highest and best” but those motivations that lurk at the outskirts of our awareness.

Aligning Our Intentions with Spiritual Purpose–it’s always important to examine how our intentions line up with our spiritual purpose. If we seek to manifest a car so we can drive ourselves to workshops and courses that allow us to expand our knowledge and skills, this is an intention that can benefit both ourselves and others. This is a very different intention than seeking to manifest a new car so we can show up our neighbor who’s driving an older model. In the long run, the realities experienced through these different intentions will drive us to very different futures.

Unifying Consciousness with Emotional Harmony—once we identify how an intention matches up with our spiritual purpose, we can then examine if aspects of our consciousness operate on different emotional frequencies from our primary intentions. These would likely be younger aspects still locked into emotional energies not yet transformed by the light of our present-moment awareness. By loving and harmonizing with these younger aspects, we can begin to create inner unity.

Hope this puts things into perspective, as I leave this beautifully place sending you all loads of love and light.
-Tamanna

Dissolving Barriers to enhance Life flow into your being.

The emotions can be a source of static that blocks the free flow of life force energy. It is important to examine and bring to awareness emotional triggers so their source can be healed.
Negative Feelings Bind You to What You Don’t Want.
Negative feelings bind you to what you don’t want. A willingness to examine the message of negative feelings can unlock many insights and bring emotional freedom. If you are harboring any thoughts of blame of victimhood, this will only attract more of the same experiences into your life. Negative or toxic emotions over time destroy the body’s ability to take in life force energy and oxygenate the cells. Diseases such as cancer often derive from emotions such as aged and chronic anger.

A first step on the path to spiritual understanding and emotional healing is forgiveness. Forgiveness is foremost forgiveness of self. You are forgiving yourself for any past misunderstandings. This is accompanied by an acceptance that everything that has happened to you was helping you learn and grow. Others have played roles in your dramas to help you experience inner conflicts in physical reality. When releasing negative emotions about the past, it may also be helpful to see how others – even those who took part in creating painful circumstances – play the role of reflecting to you something about your self. The next step might be to see the greater lesson you are learning from a situation. Another step is to accept the lesson, and still another, to express gratitude for it. As you express gratitude for a lesson, you can also feel gratitude for those who assisted you in creating the experience.

The essential journey of all souls is to seek out and understand the complete array of earthly experiences and distill those understandings into the ever evolving wisdom of the soul. In this way, the dark is no less than the light. The balancing point weighs equal energies of dark and light.

Read.Understand. Implement.Ascend.

Love and light,
Tamanna C.

Changing Frequencies -Effects, symptoms, different levels, etc.

Dear readers,
It’s been a long time since I have written a note, and off late more and more people are coming to me questioning me about changes in relationship patterns. It’s been a concern to many people. everyone can see it and feel it but one doesn’t know what to make out of it and handle the drift.Like we all know, every soul is a mass of energy resonating at a certain frequency level. every soul has its upper limit and lower limit. depending on your auric, physical , mental and emotional energies, your frequencies are constantly changing. your soul frequency is your authentic state of being, but if you are suffering from stress or disturbance on either one of your levels, auric , physical, mental and emotional, it can automatically lower your etheric frequency.

We can feel draining energies on different level. Below are few examples of how we can feel low on frequency-

Auric- sometimes we visit crowded places, parties or even our work places and if our aura is weak, we can get drained out without even realizing what is happening to us. other people’s negativity can linger on to our aura and then we carry it back in our energy field and personal relationships.

Physically- if we are unfit, not well rested or ill, this automatically reduces our etheric frequency. hence its important to constantly hear the voice of the body and move as per its pace. if the body is resisting a certain kind of food, drinks, pattern listen to your inner voice and act in its way. if we continue pushing beyond our limits, the frequency of our body drops , thereby reducing or lowering our eheric and esoteric energy.

Mentally & Emotionally-

All our fears, blocks, insecurities, questioning from our past, present and into our future can even lower our frequencies to a degree we can’t even imagine. what you are inside reflects outside. any kind of jealousy towards others, bitterness, anger, pain, situations in memory that we are unable to let go off can drain us out beyond what one can decipher. it’s important to be mentally at peace and emotionally grounded with whatever is happening around is. I know it’s easier said than done, but it’s not impossible. The key to this is nothing but “ACCEPTANCE”. Once you accept that situations and people are in your life for a reason and open your heart to acceptance and learning without any fear, karma clearing becomes a lot more graceful. if you sit and analyze, question, doubt etc, it creates esoteric blocks, there by the constricting the soul from completion.

All of the above and lot more lead to our constant change of frequencies. every city, place, temple, work space etc has an energy attached to it and we are constantly changing with it. it’s important to be aware of when this shift happens and it’s important to detach with these energies. we body and mind reflects these energies in the following ways-

*sudden headaches,

*Hunger pangs.

*feeling sleepy or tired, or physically tired but mentally awake.

*feeling uprooted in relationships.

*Erratic fears emerging without any reason.

*Mood swings etc.

These are FEW of the symptoms that can warn us regarding the energy frequency changing without us.
now this is a energy shift from higher to lower.

Sometimes we witness the reverse when we encounter spiritual experiences or release our karmas. in my healing sessions and workshops a lot of people have reverse effect where they change from a lower to a higher frequency. this happens with following symptoms-

*Slight head ache or heaviness in the head but feeling light within.

*Sudden seeing colors every time you close your eyes.

*Sudden sensation of throwing up after initiations or healing sessions with me.

*feeling sleepy followed by peaceful sleep.

*Change in eating habits, following more healthy pattern. resisting food that no longer suits you.

*Feeling loss of memory towards unpleasant situations as they are releasing from your esoteric and etheric realm.

*feeling more at peace and resolving situations emotionally with people with whom you had issues earlier. etc

The above experiences mark a shift in energy from lower state to moving into higher state.Depending on what frequency we are at, we attract people into our life for our karmic completions, lessons etc.

Every soul has to learn to accept and be more grounded with every situation and relationship we encounter. sometimes relationships can last for an hour, weeks, months or a lifetime.

for e.g.- if a patient/ client is visiting me for a healing / reading sessions, my interaction with them can be for an hour with is defined by the relationship of me giving them clarity and healing their energies followed by their self realization and transforming and energy exchange. now sometimes this relationship can last for just an hour or the person can come back to me time and again for clarity and healing. we are no one to define the time boundary of relationships. we have no control over time. we have control only over our acceptance……

Right now in our current energy cycles a lot of people find it difficult to accept- either the end of a relationship or beginning of new relationships. we are constantly question we few relationships ended in the past, or constantly questioning we are we meeting certain people right now and their purpose in our life. We will never know their purpose till the time it’s done…. or till the time you do a karma reading/ psychic reading with me or simply you have to be gifted to know it the journey you share with various souls,until then all we need to do is Accept.
Be loved…protected and at peace….
Loads of love and light, from my heart to yours,
Tamanna C.