A divine relationship with COMMITMENT AND NON- ATTACTHMENT
From the time we are born till the time we decease from earth… even as we move on in the spiritual realm, one thing that follows us is the word “RELATIONSHIP”.
It’s the key ingredient of soul journey. We share our first relationship with God, second with our soul, third with our parents and then after that everything follows.
In my work experience last 4 years, every soul I have met has some form of a relationship issue. Either with their partners, parents, friends or themselves. Sometimes I have even met people having issues with their relationship with God. As a coach /therapist and healer it’s my duty to make them aware of the lessons the need to learn or accept certain contracts they have chartered with a particular soul to complete certain karmas. Every soul may have different lessons and different ways of karmically handling their relationships. But there is one big thing common that every soul needs to function with, when in any relationship. It’s the lesson of COMMITMENT.
If I may say, the mistake people make while living in a relationship is of ATTACHMENT, which they mistake to be committed to.
There is a very thin line of difference between committing yourself and attaching yourself. A healthy/ divine relationship is the one where you can commit yourself to grow in the relationship and help the other person grow. Just like the way we are here for soul growth through relationships and we expect people for us to be sensitive and responsible and committed towards us, every soul that we are in a relationship expects the same. Commitment and attachment can never go hand in hand. If you are attached to someone, that is you are using the other person for your own sub conscious means. And how can one be committed to means.
For e.g. – you can be attached to you house and car, but you need to be committed to your parents and partner.
If you have the awareness there is a vast difference, and if you don’t, what I am saying may not making any sense.
When we talk about attachment, we talk about how we can keep the person in a relationship with us all the time. Even if the relationship is to end karmically we hold on to the person calling it attachment, we hold on to the memories, feelings etc. in a case of commitment, we commit our self into a relationship with the soul for his/ her soul growth and our own. Commitment comes naturally. No one can push you to commit. Commitment is never follows by negative emotions. If you are committed to a relationship and if in the future it falls apart, you may be disappointed but you will never keep a tab of what you lost and what you did. You take it in your stride and move on with your commitments towards others. Not necessarily replacing the lost relationship with someone new, but can also be commitment towards your own self, your work, your parents, siblings, friends, etc.
On the contrary if you are attached and if the relationship is to fall apart, we soak our self in negative feelings and emotions, trying to evaluate and scrutinize everything that we did, the other person did, keep a tab and account of all that we gave into the relationship and all that we received, and drown our self in our own attachment. We can get so heavy with this feeling that we may not be able to wake up for work the next day, we may not be able to fulfill our duties towards other relationship. Attachment can bring life to a standstill. Where us commitment can help you accept life with new possibilities.
It’s a beautiful feeling to be committed to your soul work and other souls. Commitment will always raise your spiritual frequency and makes acceptance and letting go easy, where as with attachment we tend to get stuck to the frequencies of those with whom we are attached.
As you read the above, it all must be very clear in your head of relationships that you are committed to and those who you are attached to.
It’s never too late to change an attachment into a commitment. That’s the way to enjoy divine relationship with peace and grace. Commitment leads to soul contentment and completion. Attachment leads to holding on and in completions.
If we start to look into every relationship from now onwards and bring about this shift, life will be a lot more at peace. You will see a new light in your relationships with the same people and you will also enjoy sharing deeper emotions with them. Allow yourself to be committed rather than getting attached.
Enjoy yourself to grow and help others grow, rather than blocking your and other’s soul growth.
Allow yourself to feel the divine relationships around you the way they were meant to be and not the way you want them to be……
Loads of love and light,