Good evening Peeps..
Hope everyone’s had a great and productive week.. as for me.. no marks for guessing what I am doing.. just finished packing for yet another trip. Sigh… but this is the one I am really looking forward to. after a real long long time I get to travel for leisure 🙂
Anyways today I am going to throw light on one of the most frequently discussed topics that is “SOUL MATE”. in a lot of my personal sessions , my clients ask me about who their soul mate is , how and when will they meet them etc. well honestly I personally feel the concept of soul mate is highly over rated. A lot many times people come to me telling me that they have met “the one” but then there is something or the other keeping them away. well that is pretty normal and it also happens somewhere because we have chartered for it. There are various reasons why we meet “the one” and yet not enjoy a good loving or stable relationship with them.
If you have met your twin flame, you are likely to have experienced the frustrating “twin flame
dance” where you swing back and forth between connecting then withdrawing. This can be very
confusing to the twin flames and also it can be very painful if they do not understand the
divine purpose of this cycle.
However, many factors contribute for the NEED for this cycle:
1) Firstly I would say that if either of you aren’t ready to unite, it is because you’re not
supposed to be ready – it’s not the right time.
Pointing the finger and blaming the other twin means you are not ready yourself either.
Acceptance is needed and the ability to become whole within yourself and not feel the need
for your twin flame to fill any voids in your life or heart. This has been said so many times,
but it is very important to take the time to fully understand this. If you are looking to
the other in order to feel love, it means you are not looking to yourself first. This void
you have within will only be reflected back to you by your twin flame. It means you can’t
unite because there are gaps you need to fill in yourselves so that you can reflect wholeness
back to each other and your split can be healed. If you were to join when you are not whole,
you would live in eternity with great pain still remaining.
2) You separate because you haven’t reached unconditional love and acceptance for yourself
and your twin.
Sometimes it is very difficult to not get caught up in your own views, emotions, ideals and
forget that your twin has their own view of things. Often it is the ego that stands in the
way; you just can’t seem to agree on anything. This is because you are both coming to the
same conclusions from the opposite angles. Remember the mirror; You are the counterpart,
the opposite yet identical energy vibrations. You work together through love, but come to it
from opposite sides. The result is still the same though – love.
It is the ego though, that causes us to feel that the other is doing it “all wrong”. We
say to ourselves, “If he/she loved me, then he/she would show it the way I am showing it.”
We conclude that if our twin doesn’t express themselves the same way as us, then they just
don’t love us. We begin to regard them as cold, heartless and even cruel.
The major factor that we fail to miss though, is that many of the negative behavior is
caused by FEAR, which leads me onto my next point:
3) Twin flames separate because at first the connection feels “crazy”. It threatens all that
we think we know about the way the world works.
You bump into your twin flame for the first time. Boom! Something happens, you know this person
somehow even though you don’t recognize them on a physical level. You feel such intense love,
but you wonder how this can be so when you don’t know them. You conclude it’s just lust, but
why is there that knowing feeling deep in your soul? You know your life has changed forever,
you can just sense it, but you don’t have a clue why. Then you can’t stop thinking about this
person ALL THE TIME, re-living times when you saw him/her over and over and over. The love
you feel for this person increases over time when you think logically it should fade. You
can’t stop fantasizing about them, being distracted by thinking of them to the point that
you cannot concentrate on anything else. You just feel scared. Scared of losing this person
somehow. Scared you have already lost them. Scared because you don’t even know them and
that it means you are crazy to feel such intensity.
So you “run” from it. You try to block it out and convince yourself it’s just lust. You’ve been
taught by society that it’s unhealthy to pine after someone for too long, therefore you try your
hardest to forget all about him/her. But you can’t. You try your hardest, but you just can’t.
Then you bump into him/her again unexpectedly and all those feelings flood back to you. All
your hard work to try and kill these feelings goes down the drain and within a second you
are back to square one. Tie this in with all the reflected fear, arguments, confusion and
it all gets even more scary. Sometimes it just feels safer to run away and hope it all just
It’s understandable (or at least it should be) that fear is going to present itself in this
situation. It’s a fight or flight situation and often twin flames run. But remember, this
running is needed in order for them to have the distance to MAKE SENSE of it all. Granted,
it could take years, but the point is, if you or your twin flame are “running”, then it is
because this is part of your life path – to get the distance to make sense of this new
It’s to do with overcoming the ego. It takes time. It’s as if we have to reprogram ourselves
to learn to live from soul consciousness rather than ego consciousness. It won’t come over
night. We have incarnated possibly hundreds of times, living in our egos. We can’t expect
ourselves or our twins to suddenly flick a switch and be back to living fully in our soul
4) Twin flames reconnect for reassurance.
They want to know you are still there. They want to test if you still love them because
they definitely know they love you, but are scared it is just one-sided and you’ve “gotten
over” them. Of course they’ll deny it though.
5) Twin flames reconnect to heal each other.
Through the cycle of separation and connection, the twin flames are often destined to meet
up in the physical several times in order to heal each other. When a stage of healing within
each individual is complete, they will meet again to connect and expand each other in energy
(love) which they will then need to separate again to “process”. It’s as if they meet up to
receive a challenge. Once they know what the challenge is (subconsciously) they both go their
separate ways to achieve it. Once achieve, they receive that healing and go onto the next.
6) We separate from our twin flames when we have individual karma to be balanced.
Karma – the cause and effect cycle created by us through our lifetimes needs to be balanced
before we can unite with our twin flames. Before we incarnated into this lifetime, and any
other lifetime, our souls made agreements with other souls to meet on the physical plane and
learn lessons from each other. They may be tough lessons, wonderful lessons but all will be
helpful in the end. By this I mean that eventually, even if we perceive a situation to be
negative, we will always learn a positive from it. All karma must be fulfilled by the
individual twins before they can come back together again in unity.
7) We (may) separate from our twin flames when we are destined to be in other relationships.
Through connecting with your twin flame, you will feel increased love in your soul as long as
you are able to put ego aside. Oftentimes we may marry a soul mate in order to share this
increased love with them to help them awaken too. OR we may already be in another relationship
when we meet our twin flame. This relationship will help us learn about love in order to prepare
us for our twin flame. Either way, we learn from our soul mates and they learn from us.
8) We separate so we aren’t distracted from our individual awakening.
If we were together all the time before reunion occurred, we would remain reflecting our own
voids that we need to heal individually. We would also not be able to balance our separate
karma with others and would not have the yearning for each other as a catalyst to greater
So you see, the cycle of separation and connection is NEEDED in order for us to fully heal,
awaken and fulfill our mission to help humankind through our knowledge and light. We must all
accept the journey towards reunion as JUST AS IMPORTANT as union itself. To unite too quickly.
Well as crazy as it may sound, such is the way of life and uniting of twin flames/ soul mates. we all have our journey and nothing comes easy. Sometimes we find the one and go through our testing time, and sometimes we have to go through our testing time to find the one. All I will say is, we can hope for the end result to be filled with nothing but divine grace and peace.
On this note, Have a good night sleep.
Loads of love n light